Friday 4 March 2022

How to Accept Your Weakness and Ask for God's Help

It’s not something we are comfortable with. When we bump into it, as we all inevitably do, our gut reaction is to feel embarrassed and exposed. So, we run. We try our best to hide it from others, and we try to pretend it’s not even there. We are so unsettled by its presence that we crave just the opposite. But eventually, we all must face it. And how we respond to it can have life-changing and eternal consequences.

What am I talking about? Our weakness. Our inability to meet a need we are faced with.

From childhood, we are conditioned to take aim and shoot it down, to go to war with it. It just does not fit into our quest to be strong and independent. And being strong and independent, standing on our own, needing no one is the victory we’re after. Or is it?

Think about it. The last time you were faced with your inability, how did you respond?  Did you become defensive and argumentative, angry, or ashamed? Did you burn the midnight oil to come up with a solution on your own? Or did you ask for help?

Asking for help is one of the greatest lessons to master in life. I can’t imagine how much pain we would avoid if we pushed our pride aside, accepted our weakness, and asked for help. But so often, we struggle to do this. It’s as if, our admission of weakness is too much to bear.

But, if we were to stop comparing ourselves to each other or even to a perfect version of ourselves and compare ourselves to God, accepting our weakness would be an easy thing to do. Next to God, I am nothing, and neither are you and we can do nothing. He is the Creator of all things seen and unseen, and His power is without limit.

God hasn’t created us to be strong and independent, to do life on our own. He has created us to live branch lives, to be fully dependent on Him (abiding in Him) as we thrive in community, in relationship with Him and others.  

This 'branch life' is totally counter-cultural. In fact, it goes against our very grain. We don’t like being dependent. We kick and fight against it, but the reality is we are. When we stop fighting and finally accept our weakness, it’s not the pain we imagined it would be. In contrast, it opens the door for us to receive grace, to live in community, and to experience the full (and dependent) life God offers us.

'The branch life gives power for prayer. We are branches of Christ, the Living Vine. We must simply live like branches - abide in Christ - then we will ask what we will, and it will be done unto us.' ~Andrew Murray

But we have to start with admitting our weakness. We spend so much of our lives avoiding the issue and ignoring the conversation. Why not take some time to sit back and look at your life? You won’t have to look far to see it. And once you do, admit it. You are not able to do life on your own. Not the full, thriving life you’re after. Then, once you’ve admitted it, accept it. It’s okay. It is meant to be this way. We’re all in the same boat. Weak and needful.



Then, my friend, simply ask God for help. Just think about it. The Creator and Sustainer of the universe has given you everything you need for life and is offering to walk with you and let His Spirit dwell in you. When you accept His offer, you can become comfortable with your weakness, because with Him, even when we are weak, we are strong.

‘His divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence.’ ~ 2 Peter 1:3 (ESV)

‘That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.’ ~ 2 Corinthians 12:10 (NIV)

 Have you gotten to that point? In delighting in weakness. If I’m honest, I still struggle with the delight part. Yeah, I’m getting better at accepting, I’ve been in God’s school a long time, but delighting in my weakness is still something God is working on in me. But I have His promise, He will complete what He has started in me, and along the way, He will show me more and more what it means to live the branch life.

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What about you? 

Where are you on the road to admitting, accepting, and asking for help? 

Have you acknowledged your greatest need? Your inability to fix what’s broken between you and God? 

Have you asked for His help and accepted His gift of a renewed life and relationship with Him? 

And if you have, how are you doing with accepting your weakness and asking for His help in the day-to-day struggles of life? 

God is waiting for you to admit, accept and ask. 

What are you waiting for?

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May grace and peace be multiplied to you,

Carlie

13 comments:

  1. Thank you for sharing this beautiful post, it's a great reminder to rely on God more than myself!

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    1. So glad you were encouraged, Sari! Praying you'll cherish leaning on God more and more.

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  2. You're so right that asking for help runs so contrary to everything in us! I know this full well as I deal with chronic illness. Yet it's in our weakness that we develop a closer walk with the Lord and his strength shines through us best. Thank you for this reminder!

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    1. I love how you summarised the benefits of leaning on God in our weakness, Patti! Thanks for encouraging us from your experience!

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  3. Awesome and thank you I love the branch life and comparing ourself to God. Wished we lived closer to hang, rejoice and be but thankful for the internet to connect.
    Love you bunches

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    1. Thanks, Lynda! That would have been lovely, but yes, I'm grateful for the Internet and the times we get to connect. Love you, my friend! :)

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  4. Operating in my own strength is definitely something I have to be mindful to not do. I am learning to steward my weaknesses as opportunities for God to show up for me. Thank you for this beautiful post ...

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  5. I love, "We must simply live like branches - abide in Christ." That's really all we have to do, isn't it? I'm praying that God reminds me of this post on a daily basis to help me keep my focus on him. It's taken quite some time, but I am finally confident in taking my weaknesses to God. I still struggle with discussing some of them with people though. Thank you, Carlie!

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  6. This line stood out to me: God hasn’t created us to be strong and independent, to do life on our own. I believe this with my whole heart. God did not create me to do life alone yet finding people to do life with, Christian people is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. I believe in community and doing life together. I love the language you use when you say live like branches. That is indeed how we are to live. Asking for help comes easy for me because I don't have all the answers and I certainly do not know how to do everything.

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  7. Amen Carlie, fantastic post, you spoke to the heart of the matter. I appreciate your insights and encouragement within. Blessings.

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  8. Like you, I have been in God's school for a long time. And I take great comfort in knowing the He will complete what He has started in me because it is a struggle to lay down pride and ask for help. Sometimes I think about a problem so much that I can almost believe I have prayed about it when I haven't. I'm really trying to work on that. Thanks for a powerful post.

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  9. Carlie, thank you for such an encouraging post! The truth that God did not create me to be independent, doing things on my own apart from Him is one I often fail to heed. When I set aside my pride and ask for his help, my trust in him grows, and I learn to be less self-sufficent.

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  10. Thanks for your fresh perspective on this timeless truth, Carlie!! This especially spoke to my heart:"He has created us to live branch lives, to be fully dependent on Him (abiding in Him) as we thrive in community, in relationship with Him and others."

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